Post by hannythenanny on Jan 4, 2007 23:19:01 GMT -5
I promised you all I would write!
Where to start?! Well, I have been working as a nanny for this one family for a year. The Father died four years ago of cancer so it's just mom and her special needs son, who is 15 years old. In April of last year mom got saved. We'll call her "S". S is now being tempted or tested big time. While at the same time I guess you could say I have been tempted/tested, though I passed my test with (almost) flying colours! Ok, so S met a guy who is not a christian and now she thinks she is in love and is going to marry him. You know how that goes. She's thinking farther ahead than he is. Well, before anything happened (He was just calling her and hinting that they should be "friends") I told her to tell him that if he's not a chrisitan than he needs to stay away. She DID send him a text message telling him there's no way anything could happen because he's not a christian. He said, "Oh". That was it. OK, then she talked to the only other christian that she knows who gave her VERY BAD ADVICE!!!!! She said, "Oh, you can't just blow someone off like that! What would he think of you as a christian?"!!!!!!!!! I was jsut beside myself with anger when I heard this. So she's like, "Oh, I should call him". Hmph. Here's where my test came in. I had a *crush* on a non-christian guy that she knows well (His mom and her were really good friends) and she's like, "Oh, you should text message him". So one evening when we were both sleep deprived and acting like goofy teenagedgirls I sent him a message that said "What's up? I am! Hannah" and sent it. TO make a long story short, he never responded, later on told S that he figured it was misytakenly sent to him, nothing was done aobut it, I am COMPLETELY over that crush and had and have no intention of ever going out with him. I really don't care about him like that) however; my boss said, "Since you sent him that, I'm sending a message to "J" " (HER non christian friend) and now they are dating and she keeps telling me she is going to marry him. I showed her many verses in the bible and she is aware that certain things are sins, but she is having a ahrd time believing that marrying a non-chrisitan is a sin. furthermore i had her call the focus on the family counseling hotline and they told her (This is how she took it anyway, I don't know exactly what was said - seeing as how *love* can make you say, believe and do really stupid things, it's possible she has taken the advice the wrong way) she says that they made it sound like the verse aobut not being unequally yoked with unbelievers was more like *CAUTION*. Take all these things in to consideration. Get pre marriage counseling, etc. Never explaining to her that "Do NOT" means "DO NOT!" I was sooooooooo mad!!!!
I finally got her to tell me a lot of stuff, and though she keeps saying she's not convinced marriage with this man is a sin, (it seems to me she is convinced, but she's grasping at straws, looking for a loophole somehow) she thinks she's going to fall in to sin and can't stop it.!!!!!! i.e. she thinks she's going to fall in to bed with him but she can't stop! I wrote up two pages to send with her to work (She thanked me very much and read them thoroughly but hasn't said anything yet) one being the definition of sin, using bible dictionary, bible verses, etc. And one being a full page of verses that say we CAN resist sin, temptation, devil, etc. ooooooooooooooooh, I'm so depressed thinking about this!
Then to top it off she's been very emotional lately and keeps telling me she thinks someone is going to die, but can't figure out who it is, and she can't eat (I think it's guilt, her friend who is a dr. thinks it's *love* I still think it's guilt) and she can't sleep and then makes little comments about how she thinks she might have cancer (She's been telling me this for a year) She is also putting me in her will if she should die, I get her son - she's been putting off doing it until recently - which concerns me. I am wondering if this is all guilt or what! I feel slightly guilty (Maybe I should feel more than slightly) about sending that stupid text message to that guy because she felt like she had the right to do text message her "guy". UGh. This is very long, I know, and I am sorry. But if anyone can give me advice, encouragement, share experiences, that would be wonderful!!!!! I am going to bed now. Thanks for listening!!!
Hanny the Nanny
Where to start?! Well, I have been working as a nanny for this one family for a year. The Father died four years ago of cancer so it's just mom and her special needs son, who is 15 years old. In April of last year mom got saved. We'll call her "S". S is now being tempted or tested big time. While at the same time I guess you could say I have been tempted/tested, though I passed my test with (almost) flying colours! Ok, so S met a guy who is not a christian and now she thinks she is in love and is going to marry him. You know how that goes. She's thinking farther ahead than he is. Well, before anything happened (He was just calling her and hinting that they should be "friends") I told her to tell him that if he's not a chrisitan than he needs to stay away. She DID send him a text message telling him there's no way anything could happen because he's not a christian. He said, "Oh". That was it. OK, then she talked to the only other christian that she knows who gave her VERY BAD ADVICE!!!!! She said, "Oh, you can't just blow someone off like that! What would he think of you as a christian?"!!!!!!!!! I was jsut beside myself with anger when I heard this. So she's like, "Oh, I should call him". Hmph. Here's where my test came in. I had a *crush* on a non-christian guy that she knows well (His mom and her were really good friends) and she's like, "Oh, you should text message him". So one evening when we were both sleep deprived and acting like goofy teenagedgirls I sent him a message that said "What's up? I am! Hannah" and sent it. TO make a long story short, he never responded, later on told S that he figured it was misytakenly sent to him, nothing was done aobut it, I am COMPLETELY over that crush and had and have no intention of ever going out with him. I really don't care about him like that) however; my boss said, "Since you sent him that, I'm sending a message to "J" " (HER non christian friend) and now they are dating and she keeps telling me she is going to marry him. I showed her many verses in the bible and she is aware that certain things are sins, but she is having a ahrd time believing that marrying a non-chrisitan is a sin. furthermore i had her call the focus on the family counseling hotline and they told her (This is how she took it anyway, I don't know exactly what was said - seeing as how *love* can make you say, believe and do really stupid things, it's possible she has taken the advice the wrong way) she says that they made it sound like the verse aobut not being unequally yoked with unbelievers was more like *CAUTION*. Take all these things in to consideration. Get pre marriage counseling, etc. Never explaining to her that "Do NOT" means "DO NOT!" I was sooooooooo mad!!!!
I finally got her to tell me a lot of stuff, and though she keeps saying she's not convinced marriage with this man is a sin, (it seems to me she is convinced, but she's grasping at straws, looking for a loophole somehow) she thinks she's going to fall in to sin and can't stop it.!!!!!! i.e. she thinks she's going to fall in to bed with him but she can't stop! I wrote up two pages to send with her to work (She thanked me very much and read them thoroughly but hasn't said anything yet) one being the definition of sin, using bible dictionary, bible verses, etc. And one being a full page of verses that say we CAN resist sin, temptation, devil, etc. ooooooooooooooooh, I'm so depressed thinking about this!
Then to top it off she's been very emotional lately and keeps telling me she thinks someone is going to die, but can't figure out who it is, and she can't eat (I think it's guilt, her friend who is a dr. thinks it's *love* I still think it's guilt) and she can't sleep and then makes little comments about how she thinks she might have cancer (She's been telling me this for a year) She is also putting me in her will if she should die, I get her son - she's been putting off doing it until recently - which concerns me. I am wondering if this is all guilt or what! I feel slightly guilty (Maybe I should feel more than slightly) about sending that stupid text message to that guy because she felt like she had the right to do text message her "guy". UGh. This is very long, I know, and I am sorry. But if anyone can give me advice, encouragement, share experiences, that would be wonderful!!!!! I am going to bed now. Thanks for listening!!!
Hanny the Nanny
